I gotta say, I think the whole premise sounds like more feminist propaganda.

I went to college and got a degree because I wanted something to fall back on in case my life didn’t go as planned.

I chose to have a child. I don’t think it is fair to my son to hand him off to someone else from the time that he is 6 weeks old. I did not decide to stay home because I’m lazy or a martyr. I decided to stay home because I belive that parents should be with their babies. If my husband made more money than me and wanted to stay home, that would have worked too.

It has been a sacrifice finantially. It just bothers me that everyone assumes that you have to be well off to stay home with your children. Sure we all go through rough spots and I would never be ashamed to work at the Gap if that meant I was taking the best care of my children. But having a new car (or two) or whatever else just isn’t worth it. Not to mention all the $$ we would be dumping into daycare, eating out, transportation, professional wardrobe, etc.

Sure, sometimes things happen. I was raised by a single mom and I know I could handle it if I ever found myself in that situation. But I’d rather invest time in my marriage, take out a life insurance policy and raise my children. At the end of my life I am not going to look back and say… “Gee I wish I had made more money.” Our children are our legacy. They are the only thing that we leave behind.

Ok, I’m kinda rambly, but I really find the whole thing insulting. (not anything you said Tiff, just the premise of the book)

After more than 30 years of helping thousands of couples get better divorces, I realized I could take the same techniques I use successfully to help divorces go more smoothly, and apply them to a new kind of legal agreement that would help couples stay together, and hopefully prevent divorce altogether. I created the Couples Contract as a positive, loving, legal agreement that any couple can use instead of a prenup or postnup to not only make their relationship better, but also make the same financial agreements that are handled in the traditional prenup or postnup, but in a much more pleasant way.

My new relationship agreement is featured in my two books, “The Couples Contract for a Lasting Relationship” and “Legal Essentials for California Couples.”

Ed Sherman
Family Law Attorney
Founder of Nolo Press

I just wanted to say that the reason I do not want to win is the comments I have heard/read from this author. She’s abrasive, divisive, and condescending.

There are other things women can do to protect their futures and preserve their skills, beyond working full-time outside of the home.

Some women choose to or have to work full-time outside the home, but it isn’t the only good option for an educated woman.

Raising children is important and fulfilling, too.

Anyway, I’m glad you were able to glean something of value from her book!